Hello and welcome to the inaugural article from Commander Cookout! I am so excited to be able to give you all a little more CCO content to consume. And what better way to kick things off than to pull back my curtain a little. Do not Google that! We’ve done this several times on the podcast proper but I feel as though a written article might be a better platform for some of this kind of stuff. That way we don’t slow down the pace of the podcast.
My intention is that this kick-off article will set the tone for a portion of the future content on CommanderCookout.com. We aim to fill the gap in Magic content that causes general wellness, to be missed. The goal is to create an identity online that radiates good vibes and leaves a lasting impression in your mind and body. We want to make you think or challenge you to better yourself.
Everything will be rooted in Magic but not always about Magic. More than anything else though, we’d like you to be entertained and engaged. You'll find that Brando and I write in a very similar style that we speak in. If the podcast entertains you, this should too. When you leave the website, like finishing an episode of the podcast, we’d like it to feel as though you had a thoughtful and fun time. Most of this type of content will be focused on things that we already enjoy talking about. Good times with friends, hanging out, drinking beer and funny stories. Additionally, instead of talking about Magic: the Gathering specifically, a lot of the time we’ll be addressing the Magic players directly. It might be in a challenge that we throw out there for the week. Maybe it will be a fun new way to approach the game. Whatever it is, the goal is to be engaging and entertaining.
If you’re into any of that kind of thing, let’s get onto the main article!
As of this writing, it’s been five hundred and fifty-six days since the first episode of Commander Cookout Podcast went live. In that time, the podcast, and the CCO brand in general, have seen some great successes. For those successes, Brando and I are very grateful. We’ve expanded our broadcasting platforms to include multiple websites, mobile platforms, YouTube and others. We couldn’t ask for a better audience, either. The positive support was far more than we ever expected! The constant communications. The offerings of ideas, inspiration and kudos. The tweets and re-tweets. Facebook shares and follows. I could go on and on but I’m not an ass kisser.
In short, CCONation: Thank you very much! We wouldn't be here without you.
However, in that time, it wasn’t all songs and dances and kumbayas. There were some real life struggles. I had lost my career job. The job that I had thought I was going to work at for many years to come. Essentially, my plan to get me to the end game. As a result, there were late nights laying in bed wondering if we’d be OK - my wife and I, that is. Not Brando and I. That would be weird. Arguments, stress, lack of sleep, I could go on and on here too but then I’d sound like a complainer. I want to keep this as positive as possible. Let me summarize by saying that I was getting very depressed. I was the opposite person than I was only months prior. A confident and successful professional in many walks of life reduced to a jobless, insecure new dad with no idea what the hell I was going to do. It was like I just over-extended and walked straight into a well-timed sweeper.
When I lost my job, all of the sudden, it was like I didn’t have a plan. I didn’t really like the line of work I was in and wanted to do something else. However, all my experience was in the line of work I was just doing. Would I find work doing something else? I'd never been laid off before. Where would I go from here? I wasn’t good at finding a job. I was good at doing work! I was good at holding a job. And what if I failed? What then? Money. House. Four-month-old baby. Wife not working because she’s on maternity leave. Pressure from extended family. It felt like I was at the center of the highest stakes game of all time (insert game of Life pun). Shit seemed bad. I was slipping downhill. The game was sliding away from me. I wasn’t doing anything to advance my board state because I didn’t know what to do. I felt like a life noob.
Looking back, I think it’s safe to say that we’ve all, sort of, been there. For anyone currently in that scenario, let me encourage you to fight through it. Be the change that you’d like to realize. Make a plan and execute to your plan. Even if it’s a small plan just to get you through the day. It’s OK to take it day by day. Step by step. Whatever end goal you have in mind, work towards it. And never scoop!
I was reminded of that kind of thinking one night while I was having a conversation with my brother-in-law. A burly, bearded, lumberjack of a man who’s made his living as a business owner and a singer in a band. Two things that don’t usually mix. We were chatting about what our wives thought about our atypical lines of work. Him being in a band and myself altering Magic cards in between jobs. We were an odd couple to be talking shop, I'd say. Either way, there we were, a hard-working self starter type, and a hard working, card painting, just-got-laid-off type. Yes, I’ll call myself a hard worker. We were just drinking beer and hanging out as friends.
I said, “What did Rebecca and Sarah’s (our wives) family think when you started singing? What does anyone think?”
Him, “I don’t know. I don’t care what anyone thinks. Not any more. My stress level went way down when I stopped giving a shit what people thought of me.”
I though that was an excellent way to put it. That was exactly what I needed to hear at that point in time. It was inspiring and made me feel good. We hung out some more and drank a few more beers. Eventually we came back around to our conversation from earlier.
I remarked, “I think I know what you’re going to say, but I’ll say this anyways. I think I’ll feel dumb when I tell people that I just paint Magic cards and that’s what my job is. Like, that's not a real job. What would people think of that? What if...”
He cut off my next sentence, “Fuck what people think, dude! It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you and the people around you are safe and happy.”
While somewhat abrupt, this comment was also inspiring. We drank more beer and then went our separate ways. It was like leaving the tavern in an RPG. I was given that tid-bit of information that would be instrumental for my character later in the game. The info that would boost my stats and rekindle my confidence.
Over the next little while, I couldn’t help but compare my brother-in-law's line of thinking to how Brando approaches content creation and ideas for CCOPodcast. He wants to do his own thing. He was determined to do something different when we started the show all those five-hundred-and-some days ago. 'Let's NOT be like everyone else' he'd say. Brando owns the hell out of whatever he lays his hands on. When he creates something, it’s all his. He doesn’t give two licks what anyone else thinks. It’s always refreshing to hear his ideas. And inspiring. They’re genuine and unfiltered because he doesn’t care if I think the ideas are good or bad. He’s putting ideas out there because he’s a creator. Then, when I expanded that personality trait, I realized that was just how Brando operated. Not just as a creator, but as a person. I thought it sounded like a very healthy way to approach many of the problems I was facing. I was stuck between trying to find a ‘real job’ and wanting a Magic job. To produce content and do alterations on Magic cards, specifically. I started to think, I should just do what I love instead of trying to make people think that I’m ‘normal’. I could be successful doing whatever I want. I'll just have to work hard. Like at a 'real job'. I believe this was the point that things started to turn for me. Something clicked. It felt as though the tiniest of sparks inside of me was kindled. And there it stayed, stewing. Awaiting fuel.
Fast forward a couple months, I was sitting with my wife and told her what my brother-in-law said some months back. To my delight, she agreed! She wanted me to be happy. What wife doesn’t, right? She added that as long as I can help take care of our new son and was the best father I could be, that she didn’t care what I did for work. She didn't care what people thought of her husband. As long as I was doing the best I knew how to. Regardless of what job I was doing. According to her, as long as we had a safe place to live and we could be together, then she had everything she needed. She encouraged me to go after what I wanted. Because she wanted me to be happy! That was the final piece of confidence boosting inspiration that I required. Like top decking Bolt when the bad guy is at three. Straight gas for that little spark of mine! I instantly knew what I was going to do.
I poured myself into altering Magic cards. I started selling them again. I saw some success. It felt great! I dove into producing a high-quality podcast and preparing to launch additional content for CommanderCookout.com. I was encouraged by members of the community. I started to feel a sense of pride and purpose and contribution again. Not just for my family but for this community that I was working for. And most importantly, for myself. It really felt – and continues to feel like – I’m on the correct path now. Not stuck in some job that I didn't even like in the first place. Just to feel 'normal'. It now feels like I am ready to charge forward and expand CCONation. To make it the best damn version of itself. All I had to do is let go of what everyone else thought.
For the sake of brevity, I’ll get to the moral of the story. If you want something, go get it. If you don’t have the means to get what you want, make the means. Get educated on how to get what you want. The resources are out there. Literally everything is a Google search away. After that, set goals and make a plan to accomplish them. Then you grind. Take some time to reflect on your plan and goals, then grind some more. Even if it’s day by day, step by step. It’s possible. Make change happen. Be the change. It doesn’t matter what it is. If you want it, no more excuses. Find reasons to DO things instead of reasons NOT to do things. I promise, you’ll be happier for it. Shift your focus onto what you want instead of what's holding you back. All you have to do is stop giving a crap what people are going to think of you and start doing what is best for you.
I was caught in a job that I really didn’t like because that’s what I thought people needed to do to be normal. I cared too much about what people thought. My boss, my extended family, my friends, the bank. As soon as I started to let it all go, I was no longer blocked off from doing what I love. Letting go allowed me to focus on the things that actually mattered. My own well being, and my family.
It can be the same for you. You want to lose weight? You want to get a new job? Qualify for the Pro Tour? Become and astronaut? It doesn’t matter what it is that you want. Go get it. And Eff what people think who are standing in your way. Even if that person is you. Put away doubt and insecurity and go after what you want.